I want all my freebies back

So apparently the following make you not responsible for your bad behavior.  Ok, more than the following, but I'm only going to list the ones I can claim: poverty single mother society's image of perfection being black poverty working single mother coming home to empty house being raised by grandparents being female and did i mention poverty? I could go on, but what's the point?  My point is this: if I can rise above why can't you?